I turn 51 on July 3rd. That means, if I'm lucky, I'm somewhere around the halfway mark of my time here.
I've spent the better part of the past two decades writing, speaking, coaching, and creating frameworks for how we relate to time—not just how we use it. And as the years have passed, what's mattered most to me has shifted from minutes to meaning.
So I decided to mark this moment not with candles or cake, but with clarity. I sat down and wrote out 51 things I've learned—not just about productivity, but about life, attention, values, and what it really means to be human in a world that keeps speeding up.
These aren't laws. They're not even rules. They're reflections. But if even one of them meets you where you are, I'll have used my time well.
I. Time as a Companion
- You can't manage time. But you can manage how you relate to it.
- Time isn't something you own. It's something you cultivate a relationship with.
- Routines are scaffolding. Rhythm is the structure.
- Morning routines matter—even if yours starts at 10 a.m.
- Time theming works because focus thrives in constraints.
- Every day doesn't need a theme. But every day benefits from intention.
- The right calendar doesn't save time. It clarifies what time is for.
- Dividing your day can help unify your focus.
- Reflecting on time spent is just as important as planning time ahead.
- Empty time is not wasted time.
II. The Work Behind the Work
- Procrastination is information. Don't ignore what it's trying to tell you.
- Your attention is more finite than your time. Guard it.
- The best productivity tools remind you of what matters—not just what's next.
- You don't need more time. You need clearer priorities.
- Theming horizontally across your week helps manage energy, not just tasks.
- Admin work deserves its own space. So does deep work.
- Simplicity is a strategy.
- Build systems that support your values, not just your goals.
- You can't automate meaning. But you can automate logistics.
- Doing less better is a competitive advantage.
III. The Heart of Practice
- Journaling is a mirror. Use it often.
- Rest is part of the rhythm. Not a reward.
- Walks are meetings with yourself.
- The best conversations usually happen in the margins.
- Curiosity sustains what discipline begins.
- The creative process needs space—not just time.
- You don't find your voice. You build it by using it.
- You can only craft time when you respect your energy.
- You're allowed to make things that are just for you.
- Great work doesn't always feel productive. But it feels alive.
IV. Letting Go & Letting Be
- You will never get it all done. That's not the point.
- Most guilt around productivity is self-inflicted.
- Burnout doesn't always look like collapse. Sometimes it looks like apathy.
- Simmering is as valuable as sprinting.
- You are not your to-do list.
- Flexibility isn't failure. It's maturity.
- Saying “no” creates the space to say “yes” with intention.
- Some tasks don't need to be moved forward. They need to be let go.
- Letting go of urgency is a form of wisdom.
- You don't need a finish line to feel progress.
V. What I Still Don't Know
- How much is enough? Still working on that.
- What does balance actually look like? It changes.
- Why do some things stick and others slip away?
- How do we hold structure and spontaneity at once?
- What will my legacy be? And does it matter as much as who I show up for today?
- Can we ever fully master our attention?
- Is doing nothing the most underrated skill?
- How can I listen more and direct less?
- What is worth worrying about? (Probably less than I think.)
- When is it okay to not finish?
- What comes next? I'll let you know when I get there.
If you're a little older than me, maybe this made you nod. If you're a little younger, maybe this gave you a glimpse ahead. And if we're the same age, then maybe you'll recognize some of your own reflections between the lines. Either way, I hope it helps you treat your time not as something to master, but something to meet—again and again, with grace.
Thanks for reading.
